Thursday, February 9, 2017

#Life

Life isn't that miserable..
Life isn't that tough..
Life isn't that difficult...

Communication isn't that hard..
Communication makes life easier..
Communication is a tool to bond each other...

However,...

Communication can be tool to destroy a friendship... 
Relationship...
Hardship...
Trust..
Honesty...

And makes life miserable..
Tough...
Difficult...

Human being create communication tool… And yet we are the one who misuse it. Verbal communication seems like a simple task everyday but it somehow ruined others life with complicated way.

Isn’t that simple life is good for us?

Human being complicate the whole process, and the process somehow makes others unhappy.

1 + 1 = 2, simple person will agree, but complicated one will tend to confuse others by giving something else and they do not know what they are trying to tell the other party.

I do not understand why there is always communication breakdown among the human being. Misunderstanding can lead to big problem and people hurt.

And most importantly, the way of communication can either hurt or comfort others. There are reasons why people tend to have lesser friends, and I guess all goes to communication.

Girls and guys have different perspective when come to communication, and when someone offended another party, that’s it. Your life is ruined by some jerk who doesn’t know what is going on here.

This is not about your whole life, but at the particular time, that person has ruined your life (partial) by hurting or insulting you. It is true that forgiven is important but too much forgiven make the person think that you are alright with this kind of attitude.

So now, what we should do when this kind of person kept come and made you stress all day?

Honestly, I do not have a solution yet. I had encounter this problem right now, and I am trying to be harsh with that person (just to tell him/her that I do not like this way of communication) but it doesn’t seem to work at ALL.

Thick face? No! I think different people have different perspective of communication. I choose to be friendly, and that person could be the opposite side.

That person (let named as a) talked to me regarding these many times, and I kinda pity “a” because he couldn’t get friends in the department. I gave some suggestions/advices regarding all these, but somehow I couldn’t link to “a” thinking. For example, a told me that my friend went overseas job with a senior, and she went out celebrating New Year with her boyfriend without the senior. I couldn’t understand this at ALL. “a” had rebuked my friend for not bringing the senior out for New Year celebration. SERIOUSLY? And “a” said this is the reason why that senior is going to resign soon. I am like WHAT? Are you serious?

First, I don’t think is because of that causing the senior to resign (some other reason everyone know except “a”)

Secondly, why would I even want to join a couple date?

Thirdly, I wouldn’t even join some gathering with tons of unfamiliar faces! I mean can, but I don’t want my friend to entertain me and at the same entertaining her own friend. Correct?

Being over friendly makes others hold back, and because of this question, we almost fight in the office. CAN YOU IMAGINE THAT? Some stupid things!

However, this is fine for me as it is not my problem.

My problem is when you asked someone question, PLEASE LISTEN TO OTHERS AND NOT ASKING SOMEONE TO AGREE YOU WHEN THEY ARE NOT!

This pissed me off these few days in the office, and I couldn’t control myself from being a rude person.

I was really stress out with my laptop in the ICU (IT department) plus not able to retrieve all my data out. I felt sad and was figuring ways to save my lappie.

And you know what? This fella really pissed me off by wording! “a” said GOOGLE CAN FIND ONE AH, SAID DON’T HAVE! YOU LIKE DON’T CARE ABOUT IT LIKE THAT!

WTH???

Am I look like I don’t care? Don’t judge people when you are not in their position can or not?

I really damn pissed off with this kind of people and I don’t know why I am still able to talk to him. Anyway, my laptop was fine in the end, and nobody hurt so I just forgive. I believe KARMA!

People who don’t treat others well will not treat well by others as well, and this is proven! Nobody like “a” except people like us who don’t care and forgive!

Life is so difficult with this kind of people around you.

And I should stop being like that…

This is what I wanted to conclude life isn’t that bad when you have communicate in a better way!

Good luck!

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

CNY| sum up my days

HAPPY CHINESE NEW YEAR EVERYONE!

Had a great CNY with le familie althought there is circumstances whereby I need to work in the morning and everyone else were having their breakfast outside but I'm still happy tho. 

This year was special because 2nd uncle and aunty went Hatyai and i got to have a great bonding with cousin throughout the day. 

Less gamble but more bonding, less mature but more childhood memories, less people but more bonding. That's sum up my whole 4 freaking days. 

Chu Xi (The reunion day)

 The annual thing to do list, family portrait. We have less people this time.

2nd uncle and aunty went Hatyai and bro wasn't in Malaysia this time.

#less3people

 The awesome dinner. Miss home cooked so much.

 First (?) Ang pau of the year. Saja!

From parent by the way.

We had so much fun on that day, played pop pop with little cousins and claimed that we are so young. Haha!

Ps: uncle was like please lah. So old already still wanna act young. Lol

Chuyi (First day)

 First time had tang yuan during first day of CNY. My mom had this idea of having it with le familie. So much fun when we were together making the tang yuan.

 And we planned to wear red on the first day.

Ps: everyone did a great job!

 With cousins.

 The girls. Five of us grown up so much until we laughed when we were seeing our childhood photo together.

Everyone still look the same except we are taller now.

 The only guys in the group.

This is how my bro felt last time without them. Meh!!! Why so many girls one? Lol.

 Mom and aunts prepared and served us this. So delicious and I love tang yuan so much.

 First day also meant to be Pizza day. #surprisedinnerbecauseunclewonteatfastfoodatall

 So cheesy i likey.

Chu er (second day)

Second day of CNY also known as the blue day.

 My sis and I bought the same shoes this year (no same clothes, shoes also can lol.) and it is so cute with the smiley face.

 This is what I meant, the blue day. We did not pakat (planned) this time, i swear! It was so coincidentally all the cousins wore the same colour that day.

 And the little cousins somehow matched with us well.

#pattern
 BTS | when we were posing for a picture.

 Before that, this is what Daphne sent me when she was in the state. I love it soooo much. Thank you so mucccchhhh.

 Chu er is meant for Lou Shang. And we had home made this time.

 And also meant to squeeze some brain juice with the gang!

 Tomo's short gathering too!

Thanks Shin's sis for the winter hat. #tingpleasejoinusinperth

So much fun with le gang this year, we had less time together but more appreciation.

Chu3 (third day)

A special day because uncle decided to stay in Melaka until Chu4 this year. This means we got to hang out together more time.

Went movie with le familie, kung fu yoga yesterday. So much fun listening to the little one laugh non stop in the cinema.

 Had second home made lou shang with a smallwr family group.

Better than the one we had the day before.

And i mean this! Haha. 

These sum up my holidays this year. Had so much fun and tomorrow gonna be a happy working day. 

That's all. Bye!