Life isn't that miserable..
Life isn't that tough..
Life isn't that difficult...
Communication isn't that hard..
Communication makes life easier..
Communication is a tool to bond each other...
However,...
Communication can be tool to destroy a friendship...
Relationship...
Hardship...
Trust..
Honesty...
And makes life miserable..
Tough...
Difficult...
Human
being create communication tool… And yet we are the one who misuse it. Verbal
communication seems like a simple task everyday but it somehow ruined
others life with complicated way.
Isn’t
that simple life is good for us?
Human
being complicate the whole process, and the process somehow makes others unhappy.
1
+ 1 = 2, simple person will agree, but complicated one will tend to
confuse others by giving something else and they do not know what they are trying to tell the other party.
I
do not understand why there is always communication breakdown among the human
being. Misunderstanding can lead to big problem and people hurt.
And
most importantly, the way of communication can either hurt or comfort others.
There are reasons why people tend to have lesser friends,
and I guess all goes to communication.
Girls
and guys have different perspective when come to communication, and when
someone offended another party, that’s it. Your life is ruined by some jerk who
doesn’t know what is going on here.
This
is not about your whole life, but at the particular time, that person has
ruined your life (partial) by hurting or insulting you. It is true that
forgiven is important but too much forgiven make the person think that you are
alright with this kind of attitude.
So
now, what we should do when this kind of person kept come and made you stress all
day?
Honestly,
I do not have a solution yet. I had encounter this problem right now, and I am trying to be harsh with that person (just to tell him/her that I do not like this way of communication) but it doesn’t seem to work at ALL.
Thick
face? No! I think different people have different perspective of communication.
I choose to be friendly, and that person could be the opposite side.
That
person (let named as a) talked to me regarding these many times, and I kinda
pity “a” because he couldn’t get friends in the department. I gave some suggestions/advices regarding all these, but somehow I couldn’t link to “a” thinking. For example,
a told me that my friend went overseas job with a senior, and she went out
celebrating New Year with her boyfriend without the senior. I couldn’t
understand this at ALL. “a” had rebuked my friend for not bringing the senior
out for New Year celebration. SERIOUSLY? And “a” said this is the reason why
that senior is going to resign soon. I am like WHAT? Are you serious?
First,
I don’t think is because of that causing the senior to resign (some other
reason everyone know except “a”)
Secondly,
why would I even want to join a couple date?
Thirdly,
I wouldn’t even join some gathering with tons of unfamiliar faces! I mean can,
but I don’t want my friend to entertain me and at the same entertaining her own
friend. Correct?
Being
over friendly makes others hold back, and because of this question, we almost
fight in the office. CAN YOU IMAGINE THAT? Some stupid things!
However,
this is fine for me as it is not my problem.
My
problem is when you asked someone question, PLEASE LISTEN TO OTHERS AND NOT
ASKING SOMEONE TO AGREE YOU WHEN THEY ARE NOT!
This
pissed me off these few days in the office, and I couldn’t control myself from
being a rude person.
I
was really stress out with my laptop in the ICU (IT department) plus
not able to retrieve all my data out. I felt sad and was figuring ways to
save my lappie.
And
you know what? This fella really pissed me off by wording! “a” said GOOGLE CAN
FIND ONE AH, SAID DON’T HAVE! YOU LIKE DON’T CARE ABOUT IT LIKE THAT!
WTH???
Am
I look like I don’t care? Don’t judge people when you are not in their position
can or not?
I
really damn pissed off with this kind of people and I don’t know why I am still
able to talk to him. Anyway, my laptop was fine in the end, and nobody hurt so
I just forgive. I believe KARMA!
People
who don’t treat others well will not treat well by others as well, and this is
proven! Nobody like “a” except people like us who don’t care and forgive!
Life
is so difficult with this kind of people around you.
And
I should stop being like that…
This
is what I wanted to conclude life isn’t that bad when you have communicate in a
better way!
Good
luck!